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What should I do? Rushed marriage, pregnancy, abusive husband?
I know a woman, here is her story-
I married a guy I met online, it was all a bit rushed. I am from the UK and he's American, I moved out there and after a couple of months he was very verbally abusive and he got physical with me, so I left and went to stay with a friend. Of course he begged me back the whole week and I thought since I married him, I would give him another chance, so I did and it was fine for a while and then the abuse started again, he'd yell, call me all the names of the day and throw things, he terrified me. I found out I was pregnant, it wasn't planned of course, I would never want to bring a child into an unstable marriage. I knew before I married him, I shouldn't have done it....now I can see why warning bells were going off...of course I didn't listen to them. Anyway to cut a long story short, I came home with him to see my family and he had to go back, but I decided to stay and have the baby here for fear things would get worse and I would be stuck there once baby born there and is automatically an American Citizen....I told him he needs counselling before I would consider going back, of course he's not happy. I just don't trust the whole thing...I have never trusted his character, the funny thing is he confesses to be a christian, as I am, and my pastor told me if he truly repents over this-that I have no grounds for divorce. Thing is he so-called repented the last time and continued to be that way!!!
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Permalink Reply by clark jordan on
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This is Clark's friend speaking- You're right, there are two sides to every story. What makes this one even more shocking is that my husband blew up once when I simply said I didn't feel like he loved me. I am the opposite of an aggressive person, I am 6 month pregnant and all I wanted was reassurance from him, instead I was attacked verbally, leaving me scared and stressed. He always blows up over petty things-one time I thought I had booked a flight and it hadn't went through properly, and the next day the price had gone up slightly-boy did I suffer for that silly mistake which anyone could have done-he crucified me.
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This is Clark's friend- Even if I had provoked him, which I can honestly say now I didn't, that doesn't condone his behaviour. In fact it makes it 10 times worse knowing it starts over the smallest things.
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I wish we lived here (my home Northern Ireland), but we live over in America and we attend quite a big church, I am sure he wont want to get them involved. Though we were atteding a smaller church where we were going to counselling, but my husband didn't want to go anymore and told me that the pastor said he thought we were ok and didn't need it (I don't believe he said that though). It would be nice if I could trust him because the last thing I want is to be in this situation
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Permalink Reply by Gayla on
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Repentance means change.........untill or unless he proves to you that in fact, he has repented, by changing his ways, thru counseling, fasting, etc. I think you are very wise to stay very clear of him. God be with you.
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This is Clark's friend- The thing is, he was physical with me back in February and he seemed to have genuinely repented, he even said he fasted the whole week I was gone- so I took him back and it wasn't long before it started again, not physical, just verbal, but he'd throw things right beside me. He is like Jeckel and Hyde. He terrifies me. I don't see how I am going to know this time he means it, he's already broken his word before.
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Hi, thanks for that...I am not a member of this, but I will maybe join tomorrow and add you then. God Bless you.xx
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