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What do you do when you are praying for healing and restoration in the marriage, but the other person has said and making it well known that they don't want the marriage anymore, but God is not releasing me to divorce... I don't want to keep hurting, while he is married, living single.

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This is such a heartbreaking place to be in.  I was there several years ago, and God did restore my marriage.  My husband had one foot out the door for several years.


Has he actually left, or is he just talking about it a lot?

He has already left, he's been gone for almost 2 months. He is acting and telling women he is "not with me anymore". I know I'm suppose to pray, but I also don't feel I should have to suffer while he is acting single.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  Is he a believer?

He knows God, but doesn't completely have a relationship with him like I do.

1 Corinthians chapter 7 instructs us in marriage.


I suggest you read and pray through this entire chapter.


However, for now I'll highlight verse 15 for you:


15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called [i]us [j]to peace.


Be at peace.  Blessings, Carla

Thanku. I will read through. So if he files for divorce, let him? Even though I cant?

well..  You can't force him to stay if he wants to leave.  Continue to pray through it all. 


This article may help you also:


Question: "What are biblical grounds for  divorce?"

When discussing what the Bible says about  divorce, it is important to keep in mind the words of Malachi 2:16, “I  hate divorce, says the Lord God.” Whatever grounds the Bible possibly gives  for divorce, that does not mean God desires a divorce to occur in those  instances. Rather than asking “is ______ a grounds for divorce,” often the  question should be “is _______ grounds for forgiveness, restoration, and/or  counseling?”

The Bible gives two clear grounds for divorce: (1) sexual  immorality (Matthew  5:32; 19:9) and  (2) abandonment by an unbeliever (1  Corinthians 7:15). Even in these two instances, though, divorce is not  required or even encouraged. The most that can be said is that sexual immorality  and abandonment are grounds (an allowance) for divorce. Confession, forgiveness,  reconciliation, and restoration are always the first steps. Divorce should only  be viewed as a last resort.

Are there any grounds for divorce beyond  what the Bible explicitly says? Perhaps, but we do not presume upon the Word of  God. It is very dangerous to go beyond what the Bible says (1 Corinthians 4:6).  The most frequent additional grounds for divorce that people inquire about are  spousal abuse (emotional or physical), child abuse (emotional, physical, or  sexual), addiction to pornography, drug / alcohol use, crime / imprisonment, and  mismanagement of finances (such as through a gambling addiction). None of these  can be claimed to be explicit biblical grounds for a divorce.

That does  not necessarily mean, though, that none of them are grounds for divorce which  God would approve of. For example, we cannot imagine that it would be God’s  desire for a wife to remain with a husband who physically abuses her and/or  their children. In such an instance, the wife should definitely separate herself  and the children from the abusive husband. However, even in such a situation, a  time of separation with the goal of repentance and restoration should be the  ideal, not necessarily immediately beginning divorce proceedings. Please  understand, by saying that the above are not biblical grounds for divorce, we  are definitely not saying that a man/woman whose spouse is engaging in such  activities should remain in the situation. If there is any risk to self or  children, separation is a good and appropriate step.

Another way to look  at this issue is to differentiate between biblical grounds for divorce and  biblical grounds for divorce and remarriage. Some interpret the two biblical  grounds for divorce mentioned above as the only grounds for remarriage after a  divorce, but allow for divorce with no remarriage in other instances. While this  is a plausible interpretation, it seems to come too close to presuming upon the  Word of God. For more information, please read the following two articles:

In summary, what are the biblical grounds for divorce? The answer is sexual  immorality and abandonment. Are there additional grounds for divorce beyond  these two? Possibly. Is divorce ever to be treated lightly or employed as the  first recourse? Absolutely not. God is capable of changing and reforming any  person. God is capable of healing and renewing any marriage. Divorce should only  occur in instances of repeated and unrepentant heinous sin.

Recommended Resources: Divorce and Remarriage: 4 Views edited By H. Wayne House and  Logos Bible  Software.

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That's real good. Thanku! I will read again later and pray through. Much appreciated.

You're welcome.  I'm here to talk anytime you want as are many others.  You're not alone, and you're not rejected...  You must be heartbroken.  Please know that we are here for you.

I am very hurt, I feel like I've cried all the tears inside of me, but I knw God is by my side. Thankyou for being there.
Thanku much Bev!



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