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Due to my son's chronic illness my ex husband is currently fighting me in Texas court so he doesn't have to help provide support for his disabled son. I ask for prayers in this situation for I do not know what else to do.

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Happy to be in prayer for you about this storm you are in.  Though I'm sure you have seen this scripture before, I will share it again with you dear friend.

Philippians 4:6-8New International Version (NIV)
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

thank you for responding. And sharing with me.

the verse which I am struggling with is Romans 12:19 ....I have raised my son since birth he was born with a failing heart and liver... and yes God has truly blessed him but his birth father does not want to have nothing to do with him and unable to do it on my own he does not want to help and made that choice. We do not get to chose our children God gives them to us as they are for he knows I can do it but I still need my son's birth father to help with financial support for that is all I am asking God to provide for his birth father made it clear long time ago that he did not want his son due to his medical issues. I have been fighting for nearly 3 years now due to a snake of an attorney the ex husband has. So this verse Roman 12:19 is all I can pray that God will help me fight this battle for I am tired.

Hi Scylina,

I'm so sorry to hear this is happening.  It's hard to fathom a father acting that way, it's very heartbreaking.

Can I ask....  have you forgiven him? 

It may be something you don't even want to think about.  We don't want our prayers being hindered due to un-forgiveness.

Consider Mark 11:25

Mark 11:25New American Standard Bible (NASB)

"25 Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you your transgressions."

These steps to forgiveness may be helpful.

  1. Acknowledge the pain. Sometimes it's hard to admit you've been hurt because doing so intensifies the feelings. But you won't be able to work through the pain until you admit you're hurting. Tears are a pretty good indicator that something's wrong. So are feelings of resentment.
  2. Think through the pain. Be honest about how you feel, even if you think you shouldn't feel that way. Admit that you don't like what happened or how you were treated and that it makes you sad or angry. Try writing these feelings in a journal or sharing them with a trusted Christian friend.
  3. Put yourself in the shoes of your offender. Think about a time when you have wronged another person, maybe your parents, a sibling or a friend. You needed their forgiveness. Did that person extend forgiveness to you, or withhold it? How did it make you feel? When it comes to forgiving others, remember these words from Jesus: "So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you … " (Matthew 7:12).
  4. Remember that God forgave you. If you're a Christian, you've admitted your need for God's forgiveness. Remembering how he forgave you, when you didn't deserve it, can help you forgive others. You may not be ready at this point to voice your forgiveness to your offender. In fact, communication with that person may be impossible if, for example, the person is no longer living. That's OK. You can forgive someone without having your offender accept your forgiveness.
  5. Remember that God commands us to forgive. When Jesus taught about prayer, he stressed the importance of forgiving others (Luke 11:14). And in Mark 11:25, he says, "If you hold anything against anyone, forgive him … "
  6. Let go of the pain. Once you've gone through the stages above, refuse to hold onto your hurt. Don't replay the offense over and over. Allowing yourself to get sad or angry again and again will only cause you more pain. Determine that you are going to choose to forgive your offender. Your emotions might not agree with this decision. This is where prayer comes in. Tell God you want to forgive, and ask him to change your heart toward the person who wronged you. You may want to consider voicing forgiveness to your offender either vocally or through a letter. But again, if this isn't possible, it doesn't mean you haven't expressed forgiveness.
  7. Continue to forgive. If the wound was deep, you'll probably have to forgive more than once. When memories of the wrong come to mind and you find yourself getting worked up over it, immediately go to God in prayer.
  8. Pray for the one who hurt you. It may be impossible to restore a relationship with your offender. For example, you don't know where the person lives or contacting this person could be a safety risk. But you can pray for the one who hurt you. Ask God to reveal his love to your offender. Doing so will help you to release any remaining resentment.

Love In Christ, Carla

hello Carla

Thank you so much for responding and sharing with me. Yes, I have forgiven my ex husband, when he physically and mentally  abused, and left me and my ill son without a home and money. My church in helped me when I used to live in Texas, for I had no home nor money. My church pastor helped get a plane ticket for me and my son and moved to Florida with my sister to help me get back on my feet. And yes, I have told my ex husband that I have forgiven him for all that he has done to me but it seems that he is not done with me.

When I pray , I ask God to take this situation and for vengeance is mine sayth the Lord. I do not know what else to do except let God take over for I can not do it alone.  A few months ago, I was in a car accident and my thought was if I were not to have survived who would care for my disabled son for his birth father sure does not want him.  I only ask God to have the Judge see how the ex husband has lied and played games for the past 2 years with this case and grant the order for  ex husband help support his son Nicholas as the original order was set in 2011 due to Nicholas chronic illness.

I have forgiven the ex husband but I will not forget...forgiving him was my path for healing and living my life so I know in my heart I have forgiven him but I only want him to do what is right by his disabled son.


I'll also be lifting you all up to the Lord. 

Blessings, Carla

You & your son are in my prayers. I'm so sorry you're going thru this. 


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