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Blunt question about SEX...

So, I'm single and obviously one day, I want to get into another relationship......with a Christian man. I just recently decided to start following God and I have never dated a Christian. Well, if I'm being "realistic" with myself, I don't WANT to wait till marriage for sex. I know I SHOULD and I won't say I CAN'T because I COULD...but I don't WANT to. It would be awesome if I met someone who was marriage material and who would say no to premarital sex, but now days, that's rare. So, being honest and open by saying "I don't want to wait till marriage for sex," is God going to punish me by saying "okay, well you can find your own man then. I'm not helping you!"? And by me saying this, is it unfair and insane that I'm asking God to bring me a good man, but yet telling Him that I'm not going to follow his word by waiting to give myself? Now, I'm not going to have sex immediately. I'm conservative and I do have morals. I would naturally wait awhile to have sex anyway, mostly to protect myself. What are your thought?

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Permalink Reply by Kayla on May 18, 2011 at 5:36am
He forces you?
Permalink Reply by SHYLEEJAN on May 18, 2011 at 8:26am

HI SARAH ANN,

                             SEX CANNOT BE TOO MUCH, WHEN YOU BOTH WANT IT, SEX WAS MADE FOR REPRODUCTION AND IT COMES WITH ENJOYMENT.IN GENESIS 1 /28).

WHENEVER SOMEONE FORCES YOU TO HAVE SEX WITH THEM THATS RAPE,NO SPOUSE SHOULD FORCE THE OTHER ONE . YOU CAN HAVE SEX ANYWHERE SO LONG IT NOT A SHOW FOR PEOPLE TO SEE.

ORAL SEX IS WRONG ,NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAY,ROMANS 1 /21 TO 32 SAY IT ALL ,

GIVE YOUR HUSBAND SEX, DONT EVER LET HIM BURN, TALK TO HIM MAKE TIME AND PLAN DAYS SO THAT YOU CAN BE READY FOR EACH OTHER AND IT WILL BE ALL GOOD.

TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE DONT LET HIM FORCE YOU TO DO ANYTHING THAT GOD WONT LIKE, LOVE GOD FIRST ,PUT GOD FIRST AND EVERY THING WILL WORK OUT.

Permalink Reply by Kayla on May 18, 2011 at 8:59am
Oral sex is wrong?
Permalink Reply by SHYLEEJAN on May 18, 2011 at 9:00am
YES YES
Permalink Reply by Kayla on May 18, 2011 at 9:31am
Lol no, I don't think so. Not if it's with someone you are married to....
Permalink Reply by David Velasquez on May 18, 2011 at 9:38am
Kayla,

 

One should not violate another person's moral structure. I am on the run right now, so I will explain a bit more later, but oral sex is one of those things that is between the individuals and God. I should not impose my convictions about it on anyone, nor should anyone impose theirs on me. If both adults consent of it and the Holy Spirit does not convict them of it, I say is all good, it’s between them and God.

 

Blessings beloved.

 

Permalink Reply by SHYLEEJAN on May 18, 2011 at 10:38am

HI DAVID,

                   WHEN I WAS OUT THERE ,I USE TO LOVE IT ,LOVEIT,BUT SINCE I TURN TO GOD NOW, THE TEACHING I AM GETTING TEACH ME IT'S WRONG, AND WITH THE HELP OF GOD I WONT DO IT AGAIN WHEN I GET MARRIED.

I USE TO BE VERY PROMISCUOUS EVEN  WHEN I WAS MARRIED,BUT SINCE MY HUSBAND DIED AND I START TO LEARN ABOUT GOD EVERYTHING IS DIFFERENT.

ALMOST 2 YEARS NOW AND I NEVER GET INTIMATE WITH ANYONE ,BECAUSE OF GOD .WHAT EVER I LEARNED I SHARE.

BUT I DONT WANT TO OFFEND ANYONE , SO IF I IMPOSE MY BELIEFS ON ANYONE I AM TRULY SORRRY,PLEASE FORGIVE ME .

                                                                                  LUV U ALL

Permalink Reply by David Velasquez on May 18, 2011 at 7:20pm

Beloved Shylee-

 

God has brought you to a healthy and thriving Christian community sis, where we have the freedom to express our beliefs about everything pertaining to God and Godliness, while we exercise prudence and wisdom, as we share. You do not have to apologize for giving your biblical understanding of a subject or practice. You are being told/taught that such practice is wrong and since the topic is insignificant to Salvation and more of a matter of personal morality you are free to give your conviction. The practice is not mentioned in Scripture as far as I recall, there are not too many things that fall in such a predicament (I of course may be missing an angle here as well). there are principals that let us know what is acceptable or not when a topic is not touch in scripture specifically, but on this particular topic, I personally believe (since we lack direct scripture dealing with the topic) that this has to be left to be decided between husband, wife and God. This of course is only my personal opinion. Whatever is sin to you is sin scripture teaches in Romans 14 and is not good to go against conscience.

 

Love and Blessings to you my sister and friend.  

Permalink Reply by SHYLEEJAN on May 18, 2011 at 7:42pm

thank u

                luv always

Permalink Reply by SHYLEEJAN on May 18, 2011 at 9:34am

HI KAYLA,

                   GOD HAS GIVEN US BODY PARTS TO DO CERTAIN THINGS, DONT IT.

eg) MOUTH = TALKING , EATING FOOD(DONT.

GOD SAID I WILL MAKE YOU A HELP MATE GO AND MULTIPLY AND FILL THE EARTH.

IF WE DONT JOINT IN THE WAY GOD SAY, HOW CAN WE MULTIPLY, UNDERSTAND.

WHEN WE USE DIFFERENT BODY PARTS TO DO WHAT IS WASNT DESIGN TO DO IT'S WRONG .

WHEN WE DO THESE THING WE MAKE IT LOOK LIKE GOD NEVER KNOW WHAT HE WAS DOING WHEN HE MADE OUR PRIVATE PARTS.

WHEN WE WERE IN THE WORLD WE DO ANY AND EVERY THING , BECAUSE WE HAD NO RULES

BUT WITH GOD IT'S DIFFERENT,WE HAVE RULES NOW THAT WE HAVE TO OBEY.

Permalink Reply by Kayla on May 18, 2011 at 1:28pm
Hmmm...I don't agree with that, but if you do then you obviously shouldn't do it.
Permalink Reply by SHYLEEJAN on May 18, 2011 at 6:44pm

that so true ,thank u .

                                         luv u

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