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how do i go about a family who was mentally and emotionally abusive towards me? i have just recently found out the divorce that was done was contested..am now in a relationship and dont know how to tell him. i was sexually abused by my husbands father,and my husband served as no protection.this father told me he could do the things as he wished cause it was in the bible.i had to go to a womans shelter and stayed there for awhile cause my ex-husband tried to kill me as we were both in the vehicle. this new relationship is struggling because of the people in the church,condemning us..we both love the lord and we have plans to do the right thing , which is to get married..my father even is in that way..HELP... any thoughts and suggestions would help

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Father we ask that you comfort Myrna and her new relationship that it be blessed as they seek your will; your paths.   Keep them ever close to you in all aspect of their lives, and forgive any transgressions, & trials, and persecutions Myrna may endure through this process of seperating herself from those who mean her harm, block the oppressors from her life,and close the doors on the chapters were iniquityand filth remain.Draw your children who seek you diligently Father who wish to have communion with you, and follow in he foosteps of our Lord Jesus Christ. Please heal Myrnas body , mind , and soul from all evil placed upon her shoulders and spirit, cleanse her mind and heart from these evil acts and mental abuse placed on her,  Father said to the woman; go & sin no more, Father Loves us, and forgives us; all we have to do is trust in him and love Him, and he wil give us rest in His wings.

Psalm 17:1-15
 1 Hear the right, O LORD, attend unto my cry, give ear unto my prayer, that goeth not out of feigned lips.  2 Let my sentence come forth from thy presence; let thine eyes behold the things that are equal.  3 Thou hast proved mine heart; thou hast visited me in the night; thou hast tried me, and shalt find nothing; I am purposed that my mouth shall not transgress . 4 Concerning the works of men, by the word of thy lips I have kept me from the paths of the destroyer.  5 Hold up my goings in thy paths, that my footsteps slip not. 6 I have called upon thee, for thou wilt hear me, O God: incline thine ear unto me, and hear my speech.  7 Shew thy marvellous lovingkindness, O thou that savest by thy right hand them which put their trust in thee from those that rise up against them. 8 Keep me as the apple of the eye , hide me under the shadow of thy wings,  9 From the wicked that oppress me, from my deadly enemies, who compass me about . 10 They are inclosed in their own fat: with their mouth they speak proudly.  11 They have now compassed us in our steps: they have set their eyes bowing down to the earth;  12 Like as a lion that is greedy of his prey , and as it were a young lion lurking in secret places.  13 Arise , O LORD, disappoint him, cast him down: deliver my soul from the wicked, which is thy sword:  14 From men which are thy hand, O LORD, from men of the world, which have their portion in this life, and whose belly thou fillest with thy hid treasure: they are full of children, and leave the rest of their substance to their babes.  15 As for me, I will behold thy face in righteousness: I shall be satisfied, when I awake, with thy likeness.

I am no scholar, nor claim to be, but I know that the Heavenly Father sees all things, He knows our hearts, Has he not proven this by sacrificing Himself that we might be saved?

Dear young  sister; this life of ours was never meant to be an easy life, we shall all have to go through trials and persecutions at times; and Yes, you can see in my blogs that mine was not an easy life even from birth; but it is in an unwavering trust in the Father that He will never leave us nor forsake us, that gives me the hope that there is stiill yet a spark of humanity left in this world, to help other children to keep walking in His footsteps, till the day we are with Him in heaven. Please know that the Father will judge those who oppress and harm His beloved children, You are so very loved and he will not give us more than we can handle, we just have to give Him our pain, trials, hopes, fears into His hands, and He shall make straighht the crooked paths. You must keep doing, seeking Fathers will and he shall be with you in all things.

 Let him who is without sin cast the first stone;.... I cannot for I am not perfect, so neither can I condemn you sister.; I can only pray that God will lead your life in all ways, and pray for you to find true happiness in His loving embrace. Seek HIM in the early morning at dawns first light, upon waking, and He shall make your days workings bearable, tranquil and peaceful. And when we feel we cannot go on any further; that is when he carries us through the storms of life; we only have to call upon Him, Love Him above all other things,and do His will, and he shall take our cares and cast them into the seas of forgetfullness.

 Ever seeking  His light and love,

Blessings, and peace,

 SwtSwan~;~+ 

As far as marrying in this new relationship; I cannot say for sure, because I dont wish to say anything against what you hope to become as a blessing before Gods eyes. I'm sure once the divorce is finalized you should seek an annullment; which severes the first marriage contract, that should make it ok to get married, as this wasnt a true marriage, but more a travesty, before Gods eyes as even the husband did nothing to prevent his daughter in Christ from defilement of an unholy marriage.

 Please try not to have relations before all is said and done; if at all possible; you dont want children to make it more complicated, and SEEK HIS will in all areas, your new beau should understand this also and do what the Father wills too.

 Please forgive me for stating my opinions and what I feel is true in my heart as to what I feel is right and pure and pleasing to Gods eyes, it is only done out of love that I speak and not from any agenda of my own.

 Purity of Heart, Mind, and Soul, and Abiding love, done with all reverence, humility and grace is what pleases Father I feel.

I will make one comment here, and it is what Ive learned that singing is even more powerful than one prayer; its what I believe in my heart; and when I am able to sing in church; it is with as much zeal  reverenvce I can possibly offer up to the Father, tears come to my eyes, You will make it through, and God will prevail victorious!. The wicked shall fall like chaffe along the road and be blown in the wind; but those seeds that fell on good ground took root and bloomed and blossomed and good fruits came from them. May your house be blessed and you become a blessing to others as well Dear child,....

(((((((<+>)))))))

Myrna, I know this is hard, but I say it as someone who has a lot of experience with situations like yours: stay free from all family entanglements for as long as necessary for you to get solid pastoral coounseling to help you make sure that your own personal relationship with Jesus Christ is solid and healthy.  Then continue to get wise, Biblical couseling until you have had time to work through or process all of the tangled mess of abuse and unhealthy relationships that still threatens to cling to you and drag you back into a replay of old experiences.  Stay single and alone, if necessary, until you feel spiritually healthy, and wait for a wise, experienced pastor, or Biblical counselor, or spiritual director to confirm that you have recovered sufficiently from the past to start forming new intimate relationships.  Get free and get alone with God and the Bible until you are truly healthy.  Otherwise, the past will continue to infect every intimate relationship you try to form.
I praise the LORD for your recovery and healing, sister.  When I read your question at the top, you sounded a lot more confused than you sound to me now.  These are not wounds that will be healed completely until we are resurrected in Heaven, but I thank the LORD that he uses such wounds to make us broken victims of love so that we can enjoy true intimacy with The Great Victim of Love who is our eternal spouse, and so that we can compassionately help others who are broken.

Yes my Darling lil sister; Michael is rt in retrospect, about the right spiritual counseling, someone you trust and is non judgemental or negative,  and it doesnot cost a dime for true teachings.

You are moving in the right direction and are doing your best to do Fathers works, I commend you for your bravery, under intense circumstances and scrutiny, and in time yes, old wounds will heal, and you will be able to bear your scars as Christ did for us. We are to be a shining example to others whove been hurt , and are to reach out to them and help to bring in is flock; may God Bless you child for all youve gone through so far, and all to come in the future.

 What Ive been through has only made my convictions stronger in my faith and how I do to others;I have broken the cycle in my generational curse so to speak; My children are a blessing instead of a curse to society, they are close to the Father; their moral compass is clear from debree, my daughter is still pure, and plans on beoming a surgical nurse in college this next year, my oldest is in the military, and has influenced many leaders already for the good,  My youngest son has so much reverence for the Holy Father ; it makes me weep when he serves in mass,  sometimes others have cried also...The whole town and law inforcement welcome my kids; because they see the god shining forth in them. and they are not afraid to lead their friends in doing & choosing Gods will in all activities, and ares of their life.

 Dont give up my young sister

 Your Father in Heaven will reward your efforts and you never know; one day perhaps those who despised you may come back to God after all

 Always seek Fathers will and seek him early w all earnestness of heart, He will win the battles, and keep you safe.

 Never give up!~

 Amen!

 

What a blessing you are to the Kingdom, and an awesome testimony that can set so many more lives free. God bless you sister. I heard something this morning on the Joyce Meyer program about not letting people steal your peace. It is your Kingdom right to have peace, Jesus died for you to have it. I would suggest to you to free your self from the burdens that others place on you. If anyone is condeming you in the church, this is wrong in and of itself.  "1 Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, " Rom 8:1

God does not condem us, but loves us to repentence. It is not they're place to condem you. They are acting out of character of God.

God loves you.

God wants you to be happy. He gave His life that we may have abundant lives. God is good and He loves you. I pray  God's blessings on your new relationship.

 

 

Be blessed!

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