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So, I'm single and obviously one day, I want to get into another relationship......with a Christian man. I just recently decided to start following God and I have never dated a Christian. Well, if I'm being "realistic" with myself, I don't WANT to wait till marriage for sex. I know I SHOULD and I won't say I CAN'T because I COULD...but I don't WANT to. It would be awesome if I met someone who was marriage material and who would say no to premarital sex, but now days, that's rare. So, being honest and open by saying "I don't want to wait till marriage for sex," is God going to punish me by saying "okay, well you can find your own man then. I'm not helping you!"? And by me saying this, is it unfair and insane that I'm asking God to bring me a good man, but yet telling Him that I'm not going to follow his word by waiting to give myself? Now, I'm not going to have sex immediately. I'm conservative and I do have morals. I would naturally wait awhile to have sex anyway, mostly to protect myself. What are your thought?

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well thanks, one more thing. I know this may sound ackward. sometimes i dont want to do it in the day ,since our kids are in the living room. since we can sometimes hear noises still throught the wall.===(is this wrong)

 i ask my husband to either wait in the night when kids are sleeping or out of the house. Is that the right thing to do?.

! Corinthiand 7, 2-9 gives a very clear guideline of what the sexual relationship should be between husband and wife, the Amplified Bible makes the language very easy to understand and there are no gaps so that this passage can be interpreted in any way other than it should be. BOTH should agree on things and BOTH should respect the reservations of the other partner. I agree that one should not be intimate in situations where other people can hear you and neither should this become a contention between man and woman 

 

1 Corinthians 7

1NOW AS to the matters of which you wrote me. It is well [and by that I mean advantageous, expedient, profitable, and wholesome] for a man not to touch a woman [to cohabit with her] but to remain unmarried.

    2But because of the temptation to impurity and to avoid immorality, let each [man] have his own wife and let each [woman] have her own husband.

    3The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights (goodwill, kindness, and what is due her as his wife), and likewise the wife to her husband.

    4For the wife does not have [exclusive] authority and control over her own body, but the husband [has his rights]; likewise also the husband does not have [exclusive] authority and control over his body, but the wife [has her rights].

    5Do not refuse and deprive and defraud each other [of your due marital rights], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [to sin] through your lack of restraint of sexual desire.(A)

    6But I am saying this more as a matter of permission and concession, not as a command or regulation.

    7I wish that all men were like I myself am [in this matter of self-control]. But each has his own special gift from God, one of this kind and one of another.

    8But to the unmarried people and to the widows, I declare that it is well (good, advantageous, expedient, and wholesome) for them to remain [single] even as I do.

    9But if they have not self-control (restraint of their passions), they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame [with passion and tortured continually with ungratified desire].

 

I have been divorced for 35 years and the Lord has given me grace to live without a physical relationship with anyoone so I channel those energies into prayer and working in my Minjistry. Be Blessed and do not be afraid to ask questions especially from the "older" christians they will always be helpful

Sarah -

 

Having lots of sex (intimacy) with your hubby is not wrong at all, it's not a sin or lust. God must be first in your life, but your hubby should be second on the list. When one of you do not feel like having intimacy and the other one pushes their desires on the spouse, is not always a bad thing. However you must define what you mean by: "forces you". If the husband or wife is very persistent, that is not always the wises thing to do, but not always a bad thing. So what do you mean by “he forces you” and please be prudent with your response. We have very young members in this community. If you need to speak with Godly woman about this sister, there are faithful servants of our Lord in this community. Just let us know you would like to have some of them approach you through private mail and they will reach out to you.

 

There is also a "For women only" Group: http://www.allaboutgod.net/group/forwomenonly where i am sure you can speak with much more freedom about the difficult issues of marriage.  

 

We are here for you beloved and we do not shy away from this topic and thank you for blessing us with the ability to speak life and truth into your life.

 

Love and blessings to you and your home.

This past sunday our pstor Prerached on the 7th commandment, Tou shalt not commit adultery. (he is doing a series on the commandments) and he was very frank and open about this subject, but the core root of the sermon were these things;

1. NO sex outside of marriage... not even petting..or any such innappropriate behaviour

2. Sex is a bond between two people which is a sacred covenant made with God when you marry.

3. Pornography and sex toys do not have a place either in this relationship as this perverts what the Lord has given, when one uses these things we are saying to God, What you gave us is not good enough, besides the fact that this is an open door for satan to enter the relationship.

 

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