Starting, assessing, evaluating, analyzing, nurturing ... "doing our homework on" a relationship is soooo exhausting! I just want this God-given man to land on my lap without lifting a finger! Possible? (",)
Sister Macky asked this question and I took the liberty to make it a discussion. Hope you don't mind sis. :)
Please give us your thoughts. I will gives mines in a bit.
Haha... David, I don't think God allowed me to slumber. HE made me do some work but HE is quick to remind me HE is on top of things and I better not forget that if I wish to remain happy. (",)
Well... revisiting this forum is somehow helping me with my pain on another aspect of my life. Yes, it's the same principle that should apply to all feelings of heartbreak... full trust in God that HE will take you out of the pit of losing someone you hold dear in your heart.
Annie great to have you here with your solid advice. Great imput.
I think I may have some valuable thoughts about my own question here. Is it possible not to lift a finger and still be successful in finding and keeping the life partner that God has intended for you? I think it is... if you read the book of Tobit, it's written all over there... Tobias and Sarah was meant for each other from the beginning of creation. I think the struggle comes in because we, humans, have free will. We try to control and perhaps alter what God has already written as our future. And sometimes we mess up and we begin to question and blame God for the hard times we go through in finding and keeping the one we supposedly love. But had we allowed God to move freely in our lives... Just like Tobias and Sarah... our heart would have been prepared and it will be no sweat to find and keep that life partner He intended for us.
I say this is my 50% of the story...I was still in a heart break mode... I was beginning to wonder why God is taking so long to heal me and deliver me from that state, it's been almost 2 years and I was still in the same situation as when he (the guy) had chosen another woman over me. I decided to try and discover what God was trying to tell me through this experience and I was really hoping to get out of this sorry state upon understanding His motive. And so I went to back to seriously reading His Word again. Much on a regular basis... and I looked for online resources on spiritual growth... Voila! I found this site! I liked its online bible and while exploring the AAG site...I discovered its chat room. I remember having trouble with chat at first... could not manipulate it properly on my laptop initially. But later after... things ran smoothly.
Eventually, one thing led to another... without me having to lift a finger. Everything just happened so naturally. A few trials of chat time... and when finally successful to operate chat, there he was! I didn't think much of it because it was chat. I am skeptical about most things unseen. But I was led to open up and with continues prayer for guidance... things just kept running its course. No sweat, I tell you... despite the obstacles presented to us... I feel rather calm. Nothing that God cannot take care of. Apprehensions vanished, mindsets changed, and the desire to make God lead this connection between him and me was just there, felt and made real.
True, we still do not know what the future holds for us... only God does. But even this uncertainty is not giving me a hard time... I just rely on God's goodness and wisdom. I would say... it is possible not to lift a finger in finding and keeping a life partner. I think the effort required of us is not in doing that, but is in allowing God's grace and blessings to enter our life. Our focus should be in how to delight in the Lord so that we may be open to His will and will not struggle by unconsciously mis-aligning our own human will from His. If you just let God... I think everything will happen in such a way that should there be obstacles, hindrances, delays... God will grant you the grace to overcome and not feel exhausted and depleted by thinking and feeling you were on your own to make things right. I truly believe if it is His will... it will happen. God does not break His promises... that is written.