I like to feel in control of my problems only if there are quick fixes, which have not happened in my life. Giving control to God over my life means that I must trust in His timing in answering my prayers and in solving my problems.
It is a big risk to trust. I also had negative experiences in trusting others.
I like to feel in control of my problems, but I know that there are very few things I can actually control. I'm learning that my responses to all that happens are the only thing I have control over.
I have this conversation with my boys...especially my younger one.
Using the analogy of sports... My son used to get upset when things didn't go his way in his sport during a game. He's learning that the only thing he can control is his response to everything that does happen. Umpire calls he doesn't agree with, errors by team mates, injuries, weather....etc... He's learning that the only control he has is his response to these things, and it's wonderful because it's transferring to every day living. If he tries to control the uncontrollable situations around him he just makes a mess of things, and relationships are harmed. It never works. But, when he controls his responses, it's always a positive outcome. Lesson: The only thing we're ever in control of is our own response to all that happens. When we respond poorly, repentance is the answer to get back on the right track.
What do we risk by fully turning our problems over to God? Well, we just don't know what each moment will bring. When there's been a lot of hurt in a person's life it can take time to be okay with the risk. However, we do know God loves us, and that He is for us, not against us.
What do we gain? Peace and Fellowship with God. I think we really can begin to enjoy Him.
How do we fully turn them over? To me, turning over our problems to Him is the same as abiding in Him. We abide when we talk to Him and let Him know we need Him. Also, a few scriptures to keep in mind:
Philippians 4:8New American Standard Bible (NASB)
8 Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is [a]lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, [b]dwell on these things.
Psalm 1:1-3New American Standard Bible (NASB)
1 How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked,
Nor stand in the [a]path of sinners,
Nor sit in the seat of scoffers!
2 But his delight is in the law of the Lord,
And in His law he meditates day and night.
3 He will be like a tree firmly planted by [b]streams of water,
Which yields its fruit in its season
And its [c]leaf does not wither;
And [d]in whatever he does, he prospers.
We will begin to bear fruit as outlined in Galatians 5.
Is it possible? Yes, but not in our own strength.