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hi Carol how are you Melanny

greetings in jesus name my dear sister

i thought i should post you this email i recieved,i get these emails from www.rejoicemarriageministries.com,god has directed me to rejoice marriage ministries in marche when i was doing my research gosh this site is powerful


"TAKE MY PAIN AWAY!" -

"The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saved those who are
crushed in spirit." Psalm 34:18

"My heart feels like it is breaking in two. I hurt so badly! I
feel like I am going to die due to the pain in my heart. When
does the pain leave?" This is a statement that Bob and I hear
every day in letters and email. Do you understand your pain? We
want you to know that the pain you are feeling is because you are
one-flesh with your spouse. Your spouse is trying to separate,
tear apart, rip apart, what God has joined together for life.
That is why you are hurting. It is similar to the pain when a
spouse loses their husband or wife to death.

"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be
united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."
Genesis 2:24

"So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has
joined together, let man not separate." Matthew 19:6

Today, open your eyes and ears to the message that your Lord is
speaking to your heart. I remember the pain that you are going
through as if it was yesterday. Sometimes pain is necessary to
get your attention. Many people today do not respond to biblical
truths or seek the Lord until they experience pain. Do you have
a strong personal relationship with your Lord daily? Are you
praying, listening to the Lord for His truths, or are you only
turning to Him when you are hurting, asking Him for help? Are
you
willing to allow your Lord to change you to become the spouse,
parent and Christian that you need to be for the Lord and for
your beloved husband or wife?

"The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers
them from all their troubles." Psalm 34:17

As you go through your suffering or pain, remember that your Lord
hears and sees your pain, your tears and He wants to heal your
emotional pain and trauma. Know that the Holy Spirit can heal
your broken heart and crushed spirit. Your spirit has been
wounded by the enemy's tricks and schemes of marriage problems,
separation or divorce. Satan has used hurtful words to cause
emotional pain and suffering that needs to be healed, but your
Lord God can heal you.

"...He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim
freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the
prisoners, to proclaim the year of the LORD's favor and the day
of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide
for those who grieve in Zion— to bestow on them a crown of beauty
instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a
garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair." Isaiah 61:1-3

Right now, cry out to the Lord waiting and expecting His presence
to come and minister healing to your wounded heart and crushed
spirit. Let me share a powerful scripture for you to stand on:

"He heals the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds." Psalm
147:3

Nothing is too hard for your Lord to do for you as you go through
this difficult time in your marriage. Stand on the promises of
God.

Let the Holy Spirit heal your broken heart and crushed spirit,
today. Allow the Holy Spirit to remove the spirit of
heaviness, despair, depression or oppression. Your Lord can
remove all your pain, any unforgiveness, bitterness and even
anger. The greatest Counselor, the Lord can speak to you
privately and remove all your hurts and pain. Let Him give you a
crown of beauty, the oil of gladness and a garment of praise.
Let the Lord put on you His robe of righteousness and as you
would cover your child in bed, allow the Lord to cover you with
all His unfailing love to remove all your hurts and pain.

I surrendered my body, soul and spirit to the Lord's way in our
marriage and asked the Lord to pour into me His unconditional
love and the spirit of forgiveness. He died for you and loves
you so very much and He has never left your side. The Lord wants
the best for you, your husband or wife, your marriage and for
your family.

"He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the
weak." Isaiah 40:29

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will
give you rest." Matthew 11:28

Was it worth the pain that I went through? A million times over
again, Yes! Bob wrote his first book, "Prodigals Do Come Home"
because he saw someone who was hurting, going through divorce.
He wanted to give him something to give him hope and
encouragement. Bob knew at that time two years after our
remarriage that our Lord God had the answer for marriage problems
or divorce. Bob knew that His Lord could heal wounded hearts and
heal impossible marriages like ours or yours.

May you never forget that you serve a risen Savior who shed His
Blood and defeated satan. You and I need to know who we are in
Christ and walk in victory. God created the Heavens and the
earth and called the stars by name.

"Great is our LORD and mighty in power; his understanding has
no limit...the LORD delights in those who fear him, who put
their hope in his unfailing love." Psalm 147:5,11

Bob and I are a living testimony that God can touch and change
hardened hearts. Our Lord God is greater than any addiction or
sin. May you start praising the Lord today, as the Lord will
heal your broken and wounded heart as well as heal, restore and
rebuild your marriage if only you will believe in God's mighty
power!

"Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires
of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he
will do this." Psalm 37:4-5

god bless

greetings in jesus name my dear sister

here is more of my research

What the Bible says about marriage
o Marriage is a DIVINE INSTITUTION Contrary to some contemporary opinion, marriage is not a human institution that has evolved over the millennia to meet the needs of society. If it were no more than that, then conceivably it could be discarded when it is deemed no longer to be meeting those needs. Rather marriage was God's idea, and human history begins with the Lord Himself presiding over the first wedding. (Genesis 2:18-25)

o Marriage is to be regulated by DIVINE INSTRUCTIONS Since God made marriage, it stands to reason that it must be regulated by His commands. In marriage, both husband and wife stand beneath the authority of the Lord. Unless the Lord builds the house they labor in vain who build it (Psalm 127:1)

o Marriage is a DIVINE ILLUSTRATION In both Old and New Testaments, marriage is used as the supreme illustration of the love relationship that God established with His people.
 Israel is spoken of as the wife of Jehovah (Isaiah 54:5; Jeremiah 3:8; Hosea 2:19-20).
 The Church is called the bride of Christ (Ephesians 5:22-32).
 It can be said that the Christian marriage is sort of a "pageant" in which the husband takes the part of the Lord Jesus, loving and leading his wife as Christ does the Church; and the wife plays the role of the believer, loving and submitting to her husband as the Christian does to the Lord.
 Thus Christian marriage should be an object lesson in which others can see something of the divine-human relationship reflected.

o Marriage is a COVENANT
From the earliest chapters of the Bible the idea of covenant is the framework by which man's relationship to God is to be understood, and which also regulates the lives of God's people.
 A covenant is an agreement between two parties, based upon mutual promises and solemnly binding obligations.
 It is like a contract, with the additional idea that it establishes personal relationships.
 God's covenant with Abraham and his descendants is summarized in the statement, I will be your God, and you shall be my people.
 Marriage is called a covenant (Malachi 2:14), the most intimate of all human covenants.
 The key ingredient in a covenant is faithfulness, being committed irreversibly to the fulfillment of the covenant obligations.
 The most important factor in the marriage covenant is not romance; it is faithfulness to the covenant vows, even if the romance flickers.

o Marriage is a WHOLE-PERSON COMMITMENT
God meant marriage to be the total commitment of a man and woman to each other. It is not two solo performances, but a duet. In marriage, two people give themselves unreservedly to each other (Genesis 2:25; 1 Corinthians 7:3,4).
o What God has joined together let no man separate, declared our Lord (Matthew 19:6). Till death do us part, is not a carry-over from old-fashioned romanticism, but a sober reflection of God's intention regarding marriage (Romans 7:2,3; 1 Corinthians 7:39).

What the Bible teaches about divorce
o Divorce is abhorrent to God (Malachi 2:15,16)
o Divorce is always the result of sin
 God's basic intention for marriage never included divorce; but when sin entered human experience, God's intention was distorted and marred.
 Under perfect conditions there was no provision for divorce, but God allowed divorce to become a reality because of man's sinfulness (Deut. 24:1-4; Matt. 19:7,8).
 To say that divorce is always the result of sin is not to say, however, that all divorce is itself a sin. It may be the only way to deal with the sinfulness of the other party, which has disrupted the marriage relationship.
o There are two conditions under which divorce is biblically permissible.
Since divorce is a sinful distortion of God's intention for marriage, it is an alternative of last recourse, to be avoided whenever possible. However, Scripture does teach that there are two circumstances in which divorce is permitted (though never required):
 In the case of sexual unfaithfulness (Matthew19:9)
 In the case of desertion of a believing partner by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15,16)
o Divorce carries with it consequences and complications
Divorce, because it is a violation of God's plan, carries with it painful consequences and complications.
 God has made perfect provisions for the complete forgiveness of all our sin through the death of Christ, even the sins of sexual infidelity and unjustified divorce (1 Peter 2:24; Colossians 2:13).
 Forgiveness, however, does not remove the temporal consequences of our sins, or the pain and grief involved in the death of a relationship.
 Divorced singles, single parent families, remarriage, and the problems of "blended" families are part of the consequences of God's intention being thwarted.
 The church is to minister to individuals and families suffering these consequences, and to seek to help them respond with maturity to their problems.
o Reconciliation is to be preferred to divorce.
While divorce is permitted, it is never commanded. Forgiveness and reconciliation are always to be preferred (1 Corinthians 7:10,11).

What the Bible teaches about remarriage
o Remarriage is permitted, where the former spouse is deceased (Romans 7:2; 1 Corinthians 7:39).
o Where a divorce occurred prior to conversion, remarriage may be permitted.
If any man is in Christ, he is a new creation, old things have passed away, behold new things are come, (2 Corinthians 5:17).
 When one becomes a Christian, all sin is forgiven; and all condemnation removed (Romans 8:1). Thus, pre-conversion conditions do not necessarily preclude remarriage to a Christian mate.
 If the former marriage partner has also become a Christian, remarriage to that partner should be sought.
 Where the former partner has not been converted, and attempts to share the gospel with him/her are rejected, however, remarriage to that person would be disobedient to Scripture (2 Corinthians 6:14).
 Even though remarriage is allowable biblically, there may be consequences from past sins that continue, or destructive patterns from the old life that can carry into new relationships.
 Thus a new marriage should be entered into with due thoughtfulness, and with the counsel of mature Christians.
o Where a divorce has occurred on Scriptural grounds, the offended party is free to remarry. A person who has been divorced because of infidelity of a marriage partner, or desertion by an unbelieving partner, is free to remarry (1 Corinthians 7:15).
o What about desertion by a "Christian" spouse?
 1 Corinthians 7 deals specifically with the case of a nonbeliever who refuses to live with a believing spouse.
 The question then arises as to the remarriage of a believer who was divorced by a partner who also professed to be a Christian. Such a situation ideally should involve the church in the steps of disciplinary action outlined in Matthew 18.
 A Christian who decides to walk out of a marriage without biblical cause is in violation of Scripture. Such a person who refuses the counsel and admonition of the elders and persists in following the course of disobedience ultimately is to be dealt with as though he/she is an unbeliever (Matthew 18:17).
 The deserted spouse would then be in a position of having been deserted by one whose sinful behavior and unresponsiveness to spiritual admonition gives evidence of an unregenerate heart, and thus falls under the provision of 1 Corinthians 7:15.
o Where a former spouse has remarried, remarriage is permitted for the other person. Regardless of the reasons for the divorce itself, if one of the partners has remarried, the union is permanently broken and reconciliation is impossible, and thus the remaining partner is free to remarry.
o Scripture does not absolutely forbid remarriage of a person who has caused a non-biblical divorce.
Where there has been conversion (in the case of a person who was not a Christian when the divorce occurred) or the demonstration of genuine and heartfelt repentance (in the case of one who was a Christian at the time of the divorce), remarriage may be permitted for the offending party if
 the former spouse has remarried or
 the former partner refuses reconciliation (1 Corinthians 7:15).
o Scripture recognizes the possibility of separation that does not lead to divorce.
 Because of man's sinful nature, couples can, at times, be involved in a marital relationship that is destructive, either physically or emotionally, to the two marriage partners and/or their children.
 It is possible that separation might become necessary because of the destructive nature of the relationship or the potential danger to one or more of the family members.
 Such a situation does not provide grounds for dissolution of the marriage and the establishment of a new marriage.
 Where no biblical ground for remarriage exists, a Christian is bound to seek reconciliation as long as there is a possibility of such reconciliation taking place (1 Corinthians 7:11).

Answers to some related questions
o Is there ever a totally innocent party in marital discord or divorce?
 No one is ever free from sinful conduct or attitudes, so in this sense there is no "innocent party."
 However, there are some sins that nullify the marriage covenant, and some which, though they may be serious, do not.
 In any case of marital discord, both partners should be encouraged to try to understand how they personally contributed to the conflict.
o Will divorced persons be allowed to participate in service opportunities in the church?
 Spiritual, psychological, and relational maturity are primary qualifications for service opportunities.
 Divorce would be considered only one part of a much broader evaluation of a person's suitability for service. Divorce would not necessarily preclude serving.
 A primary consideration must be the reputation the individual has in the Body of Christ and the community (1 Timothy 3:2,7; Titus 1:6).
o What if there has been no sexual unfaithfulness in a Christian marriage, but two Christians decide to dissolve their marriage because they are incompatible?
 The Bible does not recognize incompatibility as grounds for divorce.
 Reconciliation must be achieved, and every means possible should be considered, including individual and/or marriage counseling.
 If Christ is on the throne of two human hearts, conflict will cease. He does not fight with Himself.
o A frequent reason given for seeking a divorce is that the original marriage was a mistake. The couple believes that they got married for the wrong reasons and are asking why they should perpetuate a mistake.
 God's promise is that He is able to cause all things to work together for good, even our human mistakes (Romans 8:28).
 The Bible does not recognize a "mistake" as grounds for divorce.
 A deliberate, knowledgeable violation of God's revealed will for marriage is never an appropriate response to a mistake made earlier in life. "Two wrongs do not make a right."
o What if a couple is separated or divorced, and both desire to have sexual intimacy with each other?
 Sexual intimacy is the privilege of a marriage relationship.
 If the couple is already divorced, such intimacy would be classed as fornication.
 If the couple is not actually divorced, then sexual intimacy might be appropriate (1 Corinthians 7:4-7).
 However, serious consideration should be given by each partner as to their personal motivation in the relationship. One of the considerations a couple must have is their reputation with their children and friends.

god bless

greetings in jesus name my dear sister

thank you for your comments and advice that was so wonderful i really appreciate it yea and jesus is that pilot of marriage and i believ it that god will restore my marriage and he will reignite the love back again in our life.

god bless

One Step At A Time

One step at a time is the best way to go
When going through life and traveling in the direction of your dreams
The best way to get ahead is the simpliest way:
Take one step at a time
Don’t look over your shoulder
If you do, you’ll feel the weight of all your yesterdays upon you
And don’t worry about what lies ahead
By the time you get to the bend in the road or the crest of the hill
You’re going to be better and stronger than you ever were before
Just go one step at a time
One day at a time
And you’ll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford….

I asked God…

I asked God to take away my pain
God said, No
-it is not for me to take away,
But for you to give up.
I asked God to make my handicapped child whole
God said, No
-Her spirit was whole, her body was only temporary.
I asked God to grant me patience
God said, No
-patience is a by-product of tribulations,
It isn’t granted, it is earned.
I asked God to give me happiness
God said, No
-I give you blessings, happiness is up to you.
I asked God to make my spirit grow
God said, No
-you must grow on your own
but I will prune you to make you fruitful.
I asked for all things that I might enjoy life
God said, No
-I will give you life so that you may enjoy all things
I asked God to helped me LOVE others,
as much as He loves me
God said…..
Ahhh, finally you have the idea.

God loves You!

Bronx, that is so wonderful!! It is a story of " Self Sacrfice' just like Jesus sacrificed his life to give us eternal life with him! You were so tired, and had just come home from work( VERY understandable) by the way,. and then your wife right a way worries about your daughter as she is crying, ( Like Adam and Eve when they lost their salvation) then Jesus came along and died on the cross , as it needed to be done to give us eternal life, and stop the crying, that is like how tired you were and had to push yourself to the Video store and make that attempt to make them joyful once more. So here it is all about Self Sacrifice. Sometimes that is the answer,. But not always, but in this life story of you on t his day it is what was required, as compassion moved you to the video store. Compassion moved Jesus to the cross.
If we had not sinned to begin with, the self sacrifice would not have been needed, but it was. You showed so much love it "moved your daughter and wife." Love stirs such emotions.
'Your marriage still has a pilot light burning! '
Blessings,

greetings in jesus name my dear sister

hope and pray that everything was ok for you today and always remember that our god is an awesome god and he reigns from heaven above,my daughter phoned me today she told me that she wants some movies for her to watch and she also told me to bring it and so i told her that i just came from work and that i am tired and i wont make it to come, i told by daughter that i love her and we ended the call,then the next minute my wife phones me and she asked me what i had told the child,i told that im tired and i just came from work and she told me that baby is crying

I was feeling really bad so i jumped in the van and went to the video store to get some movies and while i was there my wife phoned me and i asked her if she needs any movies and she said yes,i hired the 5 day special and i drove to my inlaws house my daughter got so excited to see me she came to the van hugged me and kissed me and i asked her where moms and she went and called my wife, both of them came to the van, we began chatting and i told her that i still love them and i am trusting in the lord for a marriage restoration and that i know what i did was wrong to hurt her that much and also it made me realise how much i want to be with my family and how much i love them,this past 6 months it was'nt easy for me but i thank our lord and savour jesus christ for making it possible for my wife and i to chat today and the best thing of it all is that she did'nt even speak about a divorce, i give god all the praise and the glory for he is worthy of it at all times.AMEN

GOD BLESS

Meaningful Life
If you’ve never asked the question
Who or when or why or how
Give your mind that great suggestion
Go ahead and do it now

You will find when you consider
All the options that abound
There is still but one conclusion
Where peace of mind is found

It’s not in education
In religion or in books
In retirement funds and IRAs
Or how the market looks

It’s not in status or in style
How low in golf you score
It’s not the running of a mile
Or who you’re working for

It’s not the price you pay for things
It’s not the jewels and fancy rings
It’s not the checks and credit cards
Secured by all those guns and guards

It’s not the beauty of your face
It’s not a matter of your face
It’s not the muscle on your bones
Your classy looks or great skin tones

What matters most in life today
Is where you stand along the way
Not what you have but what you are
How faith in God succeeds by far

God is the answer to the question
Of the who, when, why or how
And He gives the invitation:
‘TRUST IN ME AND DO IT NOW’’

You’ll find God meets your deepest need
With His kind words your soul He’ll feed
He guide your steps and makes things right
He’ll turn darkness into light…..

Donna That is so cute.... Perhaps Moses did act like that, a typical child in every way..hahaha

FOR I, THE LORD YOUR GOD, WILL HOLD YOUR RIGHT
HAND, SAYING TO YOU, "FEAR NOT, I WILL HELP
YOU."
( ISAIAH 41:13 *NKJV )
We often face troubling times in our lives that
cause us to worry, and lose sleep. As a child of God you
have Him at your side, holding your hand, and guiding
your pathway through those times. For, THE LORD IS
GOOD, A STRONGHOLD IN THE DAY OF TROUBLE;
AND HE KNOWS THOSE WHO TRUST IN HIM.
( NAHUM 1:7 )
He will never abandon HIS Children, throughout
their entire lives. For He is always with us no matter
what we may face, as He further promised: WHEN YOU
PASS THROUGH THE WATERS, I WILL BE WITH YOU;
AND THROUGH THE RIVERS,* THEY SHALL NOT
OVERFLOW YOU. WHEN YOU WALK THROUGH THE
FIRE,* YOU SHALL NOT BE BURNED, NOR SHALL
THE FLAME SCORCH YOU. ( ISAIAH 43:2 )
[*Rivers and *Fire in the verse represent difficulties in our
lives]
Therefore, FEAR NOT, FOR I AM WITH YOU; BE NOT
DISMAYED, FOR I AM YOUR GOD. I WILL
STRENGTHEN YOU, YES, I WILL HELP YOU, I WILL
UPHOLD YOU WITH MY RIGHTEOUS RIGHT HAND.
( ISAIAH 41:10 )
So the next time you face troubling times, do as Jesus
said: "LET NOT YOUR HEART BE TROUBLED; YOU
BELIEVE IN GOD, BELIEVE ALSO IN ME." (JOHN 14:1)
Then WHEN YOU LIE DOWN, YOU WILL NOT BE
AFRAID; YES, YOU WILL LIE DOWN AND YOUR
SLEEP WILL BE SWEET. ( PROVERBS 3:24 )
Now have a great day walking hand and hand with God,
friend! Amen.

When do you feel closest to God?

Thank you so much, Nienie,Julia, and Carla for such a nice warm welcome. Am so pleased to have met such a nice group and will certainly check out the links and and join in with other people who love God as I do and want to be with other people who can share the faith.This is a wonderful way to be with wonderful people of the same purpose! Blessings to all of you!!!

Welcome Carol to this wonderful internet family! Please join in the forums and groups and may you enjoy having fellowship with all.
Glad to have you here!
Blessings Nienie

Hi Carol,

Greetings and Blessings! This is Carla, one of TheNET moderators here. Welcome to this wonderful family of Jesus followers! We're glad you are here.

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I look forward to getting to know you.
God Bless!
Carla/NET moderator

IT IS ALL ABOUT JESUS!!