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I have come to a point in my life that I know more than anything that I need God my savior in my life. I have had many trials in my marraige to my husband Michael. We have been through alot,most I think today would have walked away and filed for a divorce if they were me. I have never loved another like I love this man. That doesn't mean I have always acted like I wanted to be married to him. I have had people tell me that I am crazy,but when I sit and truely think of my marriage I just can not give up on it. I don't know why,I just feel that God is telling me to not give up. I have had some things happen that I just can not ignore because I know they are Gods work and thats when I would be crazy to ignore that. My husband of four and a half years,we will be together five years this October is currently living with his girlfriend and has filed for a divorce. I know most people would give up and move on. But I just can't. I have prayed to God for answers and for guidance. My marraige is important to me. This is my family which has been my life. we have a four year old and I have a seven year old that thinks and has only known this man as his father. I do not think this is the best thing for my family. We have both made mistakes,friends and family tell me that his mistakes are worse than mine and its more his fault than mine. I think that one mistake is no worse than the other.They all hurt the other no matter what mistake it is. I can easily forgive this man,it takes patience and understanding.
I ask that you all pray for my marriage and healing of my family. I truely want my marraige and to put God in my marraige and family.
My husband is a believer in God he knows God better than I do. I have come to truly believe that this is Gods way of telling my husband that money is not the most important thing in life and it can not buy you true happiness. This other women has money and I truely believe that is what his relationship with her is about. I do not feel that my marraige is over, I think that this is Gods time with me to get me closer to him. I know that God has heard my prayers and I do not believe that it is his will for a divorce. I have to be patient and understanding now more than I ever have in my marriage. I believe with all my heart that my marriage can work. The reason I believe this is becausemI let him go last October and was seperated from him for 4 months I did not seek divorce and I started seeking the Lord a little at that time,God planted him right back in my life and things were great he was willing to go to church and put God in our lives,things happened and we put it off. Big mistake!!!! I believe that God put us back in each others lives for a reason because my husband would have died if it had not been for me and his sister,he had a car accident and was bleeding internally and refused medical treatment,his sister and I made him go to the hospital anyway and stay and get treated,he ended up staying in the hospital for about 3 days.When he came home he had a totally different outlook on life then he got fired from his job and for him there was no hope I truely believe that he does not feel like he deserves his family. But if you knew the person I know then you could understand why I can not just give up on him. I have spoken to him recently and after my conversation with him is when I joined this group. He did admit to me that his being with this other women is wrong and that he has made mistakes also as compared to a couple of weeks ago everything was my fault,so I know that God hears my prayers and I know that his will is not for a divorce,my attorney has told me that he has no grounds for a divorce. His relationship with this other women is based on lies to what extent I do not know but I do know that he has lied to her. He always tells me when I talk to him to have the kids call him but he doesn't call them much. I don't know what to think of that but God will give me the answer I know. Please keep praying for my marriage and for God to bring my husband home.
There are many things from God that tell me to not give up. But it is really getting hard. I know what I want in my heart and I know that it is not God's will for divorce but it seems that the wordly things are stacking up on me at this time. I have prayed to God everyday and I am feeling really frustrated now. I know all things are in God's time not ours. Last week when I had to make the appointment for the attorney I was very upset about making that call. I spent my lunch very upset and crying out to the Lord. When I returned to my desk at work a gentleman came in for help,I help him and afterward he tapped my wedding band and asked where my husband was, I was taken aback by this and was hesitant to answer he then asked if he was in the picture and said he had intuition about these things. I answered with he has filed for a divorce but I don't want a divorce. He then went on to tell me that it is not my fault and that I need to build my faith up in the Lord,that there is not such thing as love at first sight and that you learn to love someone by the things you respect in them. He then asked if we had children, I said yes and showed him a picture of my husband and children on my desk,he said something else but all I caught was someone to treat you right.Then he left and as he was walking out the door he said listen to what I said. This was on Tuesday,Friday is when I had my appointment with my attorney. Before I went I prayed that he just take care of it and let the response I give to his filing be what God wants. I went in and explained the whole thing to her and she told me that he has not grounds for a divorce.Then proceeded with the response,I am not really happy with the response but I don't think i will be happy with any reponse at this point. My children and I spent last Saturday with my in-laws at a football game for my nephew. We had a really nice time and they were really nice to me. My father-in-law offered to help me out. And when we got home I was really upset because I realized that they have been my family also.No we haven't always seen eye to eye but they are my family and I do love them. That is when I called my husband and he spoke with the kids and I spoke with him for a few mminutes. He did tell me that him living with this women and being married is wrong.He also admitted that he made alot of mistakes too,that we both made mistakes. We talked and it was good. He did say before we hung up to have the kids call him. We then tried to call him on Sunday after church and he did not answer and has not returned the call. From what I have been told this other women has her own business and she as pretty much turned it over to him to do all the work,she is 10 years older than him and I feel like they are using one another,her to build her business and him to make money. I feel really frustrated because I feel I am fighting against money. Please keep praying for God to turn my husbands heart back to our family and marraige and for God to guide him home.
I ask that you all pray for my marriage and healing of my family. I truely want my marraige and to put God in my marraige and family.
My husband is a believer in God he knows God better than I do. I have come to truly believe that this is Gods way of telling my husband that money is not the most important thing in life and it can not buy you true happiness. This other women has money and I truely believe that is what his relationship with her is about. I do not feel that my marraige is over, I think that this is Gods time with me to get me closer to him. I know that God has heard my prayers and I do not believe that it is his will for a divorce. I have to be patient and understanding now more than I ever have in my marriage. I believe with all my heart that my marriage can work. The reason I believe this is becausemI let him go last October and was seperated from him for 4 months I did not seek divorce and I started seeking the Lord a little at that time,God planted him right back in my life and things were great he was willing to go to church and put God in our lives,things happened and we put it off. Big mistake!!!! I believe that God put us back in each others lives for a reason because my husband would have died if it had not been for me and his sister,he had a car accident and was bleeding internally and refused medical treatment,his sister and I made him go to the hospital anyway and stay and get treated,he ended up staying in the hospital for about 3 days.When he came home he had a totally different outlook on life then he got fired from his job and for him there was no hope I truely believe that he does not feel like he deserves his family. But if you knew the person I know then you could understand why I can not just give up on him. I have spoken to him recently and after my conversation with him is when I joined this group. He did admit to me that his being with this other women is wrong and that he has made mistakes also as compared to a couple of weeks ago everything was my fault,so I know that God hears my prayers and I know that his will is not for a divorce,my attorney has told me that he has no grounds for a divorce. His relationship with this other women is based on lies to what extent I do not know but I do know that he has lied to her. He always tells me when I talk to him to have the kids call him but he doesn't call them much. I don't know what to think of that but God will give me the answer I know. Please keep praying for my marriage and for God to bring my husband home.
There are many things from God that tell me to not give up. But it is really getting hard. I know what I want in my heart and I know that it is not God's will for divorce but it seems that the wordly things are stacking up on me at this time. I have prayed to God everyday and I am feeling really frustrated now. I know all things are in God's time not ours. Last week when I had to make the appointment for the attorney I was very upset about making that call. I spent my lunch very upset and crying out to the Lord. When I returned to my desk at work a gentleman came in for help,I help him and afterward he tapped my wedding band and asked where my husband was, I was taken aback by this and was hesitant to answer he then asked if he was in the picture and said he had intuition about these things. I answered with he has filed for a divorce but I don't want a divorce. He then went on to tell me that it is not my fault and that I need to build my faith up in the Lord,that there is not such thing as love at first sight and that you learn to love someone by the things you respect in them. He then asked if we had children, I said yes and showed him a picture of my husband and children on my desk,he said something else but all I caught was someone to treat you right.Then he left and as he was walking out the door he said listen to what I said. This was on Tuesday,Friday is when I had my appointment with my attorney. Before I went I prayed that he just take care of it and let the response I give to his filing be what God wants. I went in and explained the whole thing to her and she told me that he has not grounds for a divorce.Then proceeded with the response,I am not really happy with the response but I don't think i will be happy with any reponse at this point. My children and I spent last Saturday with my in-laws at a football game for my nephew. We had a really nice time and they were really nice to me. My father-in-law offered to help me out. And when we got home I was really upset because I realized that they have been my family also.No we haven't always seen eye to eye but they are my family and I do love them. That is when I called my husband and he spoke with the kids and I spoke with him for a few mminutes. He did tell me that him living with this women and being married is wrong.He also admitted that he made alot of mistakes too,that we both made mistakes. We talked and it was good. He did say before we hung up to have the kids call him. We then tried to call him on Sunday after church and he did not answer and has not returned the call. From what I have been told this other women has her own business and she as pretty much turned it over to him to do all the work,she is 10 years older than him and I feel like they are using one another,her to build her business and him to make money. I feel really frustrated because I feel I am fighting against money. Please keep praying for God to turn my husbands heart back to our family and marraige and for God to guide him home.
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Comment by barva smith brown on August 31, 2009 at 9:28pm
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father god you say in your word what you put together let no man pull apart so in the name of jesus i pray over this marriage that you let this man .mind be turn from this woman that he is living with and he finds he way back to you and to his wife. and lord i pray for this wife that you would take full control of her guide her in every decision that she makes .and keep her strong in fulfilling your will in her life.
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Comment by Leonard MonteLeone on August 31, 2009 at 8:27pm
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Dear Sister,
We belong to a Christian group here in Minnesota called Rebuilders, maybe there
is one near you.
Over and over we have seen the worst marriages brought back together,
Almighty God will reward you by you faithfulness keep in the Word.
Pray the answer not the problem.
We join with you in your prayer.
Leonard
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Comment by Namaste on August 31, 2009 at 8:19pm
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Heavenly Father, we come before you joining hands in the Spirit for this sister who has cried out for help in the beloved name of Jesus. We trust in your provision, we extend Your peace to her in Your name as you have promised. We offer her our hands to heal this pain through Your power. We trust in Your grace to finish the good work you have begun in the hearts of Melanie and her husband. We claim her husband for You and will not let him go. Let her stand firm in faithfulness to her husband as long as their bond remains and please bless her in a mighty way for yielding to Your leading that she remain in this marriage as long as You lead her. Please LORD, make straight her path before her. Please give her Your peace which surpasses all understanding. Please grant her clarity, wisdom, patience, and above all LOVE for her husband. Let her continue to forgive him the pain he causes, knowing that it is sin that is causing that pain for both her and him. Please carry her through this trial and give her enough light for the step she is on. Let her lean fully on Your strength. We pray for restful sleep, strength to minister to her children and fulfill their needs in this stressful time. Please pour Your love into her so that it will pour out into her family. Let her wait patiently upon You until You move her further in Your will for her life. Thank You. We praise Your holy name. Amen.
Hugs, Melanie. You are never alone.
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Comment by Christy Gabriel on August 31, 2009 at 6:50pm
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I have prayed for you dear and let everything in Jesus' hands. Praise the Lord. Haleluja!!! With much love in Christ: Christy Gabriel
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Comment by Robert John Sage on August 31, 2009 at 4:20pm
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Melanie I pray for both you and your husband, I pray that he will come to his senses and that God will make sure he does
For you I pray that you will have peace in your mind and that your God will look after you we all at some time in our lives have obstacles put before us and if we truly believethese obstacles will not be as bad as we think Always remember that by asking god and jesus for help we will receive it
May your loving God come to you in your time of stress .
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Comment by JesusRocksOnIrc Chat on August 31, 2009 at 2:08pm
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Hi,I will pray for you and your marriage,and yes I agree that we need not hold our sins up to the light and compare if ours are worse or better.thats all a matter of opinion there.so lets pray for the healing of your marriage if indeed there is life left in it.and you seem to think there is.,so be positive and wait for the best.
Peace and Light
Garnett
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Comment by Maggie Flagg on August 31, 2009 at 11:28am
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Melanie, The only thing I can say is, it is all in God's hands. Keep praying and know that what happens in the end, is meant for a reason. I was married 20 years and my husband had an affair. I didn't want to sign the divorce papers but was told that if I didn't I would be in contempt of court. I had no choice. When men want out, nothing will stop them, unless it's God's intervention. My ex is a non believer. We weren't equally yoked. But, I was "in love". I put him first before God and now this is where I'm at. Alone and broken physically. But, I have God in my heart and I know that he's the only one that matters. He has me alone I do believe because he wants me there so I continue to get closer to him. Yes, I get lonely and I just have to remind myself that this in God's plan, not mine. So my prayer for you is for you to understand that God has you where he wants you, so you will be closer to him. I know how you feel. I have been there too. I have been divorced 10 years and have made mistakes with two other relationships along the way. Some days I think it's just better to be alone with God than to keep making bad choices in men. I do hope he gives me a second chance of love and marriage with a Christian man before I die, but if he doesn't I will just have to accept it. What else can I do? "Let go and let God". I will keep you in my prayers. I know you will become stronger for that is what God wants.
Peace be with you Melanie,
Maggie
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Thank you all for your encouragement. I will give you an update later today and a little more insite as to the things that have happened in the past week. Thanks again and I ask that you keep praying for God to bring my husband home to his family were he belongs.
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Comment by Lahry Sibley on August 31, 2009 at 10:00am
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I'm so encouraged by all the love expressed here. Melanie, you hang in there until God gives you a peace and a release. Thank you for sharing your burden with us. May the wonder of His mighty power abound in you and through you, in Jesus' Holy Name. Amen.
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Comment by Earl Adams on August 31, 2009 at 7:08am
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i have been married three times myself. i don,t believe that God wnats us to live in a house with some one who dose not want to be a christain and go with us to church. i believe that if he loved you he would not even think of havinga girl friend . and i don,t think god wants you living in that type of home. what kind of example is that for the childern? even though they may love their dad, they will come to hate him the longer they see how he is treating you, and they will grow up to do the same with women. I pray that god will send you true christain friends to pray with and help yoyu, get out of that house ,or get him out please. Satan is a strong force aganist the home today, think of it like the house is on fire, are you going to stay and destory the whole family,or leave and save the childern and your self. God will oopen another door and bringa good christain man in your life that will give you love like you have never known and happiness beyong compare, but you must take the first step. get out.or get him and his lady out now;
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