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I always wanted to know if you got married to a man and years later he started beating you, Is it wrong to get a divorce and marry again if you fell in love and was compatible with that person?

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Adultery is infidelity and infidelity is a breach of trust. If your husband beats you, that is a breach of trust.

Remarriage is not so simple. The Bible says no, not while he/ she lives. I would pray for guidance about this thing.

Blessings to you,
Sis Amanda,

"I always wanted to know if you got married to a man"
Try to remember why an individual would marry such a person
and years later he started beating you,
What could have been some of the leading factors for such misbehavior?
Is it wrong to get a divorce
-Pray until you get a definite answer not in my place to answer that God may be doing things I am unaware of, To me .divorce is a no no All in all marriages should seek all counsel and do all things possible to save their vows with one another.
"and marry again if you fell in love and was compatible with that person?"
-Jesus can heal marriages sis believe in God. seek counsel. pray.
and is it true unconditional love? test on that k
<3 :)
So anything that breaks a marriage covenant is a type of spiritual adultery? Because I thought only if a person thought of fornicating or any lustful thoughts about someone else is the same as doing it

>>So anything that breaks a marriage covenant is a type of spiritual adultery?


No - Adultery is adultery, sexual sin. Only sexual immorality is an acceptable reason God has given us for divorce. If your husband beats you or is abusive in ways that place your safety in danger, you have the God given freedom to separate (1 Cor. 7), but you should not remarry or start any other relationship at this time. You should wait for God to guide you.

I thought of those passages when I asked that question but I know God rather you be married to someone if that person is sexual so they wouldn't fornicate. Knowing that and the situation of the abusive relationship what would someone do in a circumstance like that because I know when I pray I put my problems in God hands and have faith in him but sometimes the problem is still there, so what other options can that person do?
Good point I will try to find that book.
Thank you mercy, I really like what you wrote because I can relate to that a lot. I think everybody has a story, a different way they handled a similar situation and everybody needs some type of help. I asked this question to get opinions on this topic that a lot of people go through and wanted to know should the abused victim person stay in the MARRIAGE until the abuser gets help or get a divorce because its going against the marriage covenant they made. And as years go by if she fell in love would it be okay to marry again?
Amanda, my sister in Christ,

Being beaten by your spouse is not a Bibical reason to divorce. Jesus talks about divorce in Mark10:2-12 & Luke 16:18, but it boils down to this. God's Heart/Ideal is that a man and woman are to be married permanently. In Luke 16:18, Jesus says, "Anyone who divorces his wife & marries someone else commits adultery, & anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." In Mark 10:11, Jesus essentially tells the disciples the the same is true for a woman. In Mark 10:5, Jesus tells the Pharisees that Moses only allowed divorce in Deuteronomy 24:1 as a concession to our hard-hearted wickedness.

In Matthew 19:8-9 Jesus said, "Moses permitted divorce as a concession to your heard-hearted wickedness, but it was not what God originally intended. And l tell you this, a man who divorces his wife & marries another commits adultery - unless his wife has been unfaithful." In Matthew 5:32 Jesus says, "But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."

So God's Heart is that marriage be permanent, but will allow in cases of adultery. Talking w/ our pastor recently, he advised that if adultery is a 1 time thing & not a lifestyle, he encourages the couple to try to work it out w/ the Help of the Holy Spirit.

I strongly encourage you not to allow thoughts of the love you had for another person to remain any longer than to say, "God, these are from the Devil, You know it & know it. Please take them away right now." & then w/ the Holy Spirit's Help go back to working on this marriage. Thinking about someone you once loved while working on your marriage is like what Jesus taught about lust in Matthew 5:27-28, "You have heard that the law of Moses says, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman w/ lust has already commited adultery w/ her in his heart." Basically, the man may have the thought pop in his mind and if he disregards it, or says, "No, I love my wife, I'm not going to thnk about that." & goes on about his business, he's obeying God. But if he continues to think abou it, then it progresses to adultery in God's Eyes.

I know firsthand what it's like to be physically & emotionally abused. I grew up w/ parents (particularly my mother) whom I never knew when they might go off, and it happend frequently. The best recommendation I've heard for your circumstance comes from Dr James Dobson of Focus on the Family. My understanding is that you should leave for your own safety, BUT let your husband know you want to work on your marriage. Tell him (when you're safe) that he must seek help with his anger, that you will not and cannot live with him until he seeks help & has his drinking & temper under control. Meanwhile,dig into God's Word, seek out Bible-based believers for fellowship & encouragement. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you forgive your husband for his abuse. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you become a more Godly woman, merciful, kind, patient, - all the fruits listed in Galatians 5:22. These will make you more attractive to your husband, & he will have more need to change his ways in order to win you back.

Amanda, I know.... It is SO hard to be in a physically abusive situation. The fact that you are thinking about the person you used to love tells me you're probably at the end of your rope. I've been there. That you're askng questions, & not just going to a divorce attorney tells me you have a heart that is seeking after God. Hang onto Him & His instructions. They really ARE for our good, even when it doesn't seem like it. If you want to know more about where I'm coming from, please check out my profile. It's been a long hard haul, but GOD IS GOOD!

God's Supernatural Peace & Protection to you my sister.
I agree with you Mercy and well said Linda :)
This is a great advice but just so you know I am not married and this is just a question I always wanted to know the right solution for. I was wondering does this also count for people who are engaged?

I am so thankful that you are not married to a man who is beating you!

Regarding engagement, if the man is starting to be emotionally or physically abusive (or in any other way), break off the engagement immediately! I know it would hurt terribly because you love him & he has probably made you feel you deserve it, but NO ONE deserves to be abused. We were ALL created in God's image, and just as we would not abuse God, neither should we abuse each other.

Having broken the engagement, allow yourself to heal emotionally & mentally before asking God to bring the mate He has in mind for you into your life. Then let God work.

Peace Amanda.
Amen Gods Woman!


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