No one can do this for you. Often in life we try to avoid the hard place. We want problems and situations that we find appalling to just go away if we simply ignore them. But that doesn't work. Every person must come to that place where he/she must take responsibility and then action. No one can take the course of action that you must take for yourself. No one can do for you what you must do for yourself. Anything less that your effort and your input, will be a temporary solution at best. Jesus told the disciples that they must take up their cross and follow Him. Must not we do the same?