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Separated, Divorced, or loss of a spouse support net.


Separated, Divorced, or loss of a spouse support net.

Those Christians who are facing separation, divorce, or loss of a spouse need love and care from their brothers and sister in Christ during this time of crisis in there lives. If one part of the body is hurt we all are hurt.

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I wanted to put a comment here that I left for a young man who had just separated and was in real anguish. When I looked at his picture on his page and looked into his eyes, I saw the same pain there that I saw in my own eyes when I faced separation after 25 years of marriage. I hope to make this group a real source of support for those who are in this position that most of us never dreamed of being in, and then found our selves there anyway.
This is the post.
I do know the place where you are at right now, because I have been there. Without going through all the details of my experience I want you to know that because you have come to this net. You are not alone in your suffering anymore. I know how hard it is to allow others to help you when you have been so wounded. You do not need me or any one to fix this problem right now, all you need to know is that someone cares about you. I remember the day my Pastor came to my house, just set with me half a day, and cried with me. I kept listening to this song by Keri Jobe that helped me make it through my pain.

It didn’t turn out the way I thought it would after almost 4 years now.
Am I back in my marriage? No. The divorce will be final this week.

Is there life after separation, divorce or the loss of a spouse? Yes!
But you can’t deal with it alone. You need some one to help you find a way through the maze of grief, and sorrow that some one goes through with any loss. Stand no more alone and find some support for yourself that you need so desperately.

Know that I will, and others here will pray that God will lead you to those who will help. God can handle your anger and disappointment and your grief. He is a very present help in time of need.

Maybe you are reading this and your heart is broken, you are feeling lost, and have lost your hope.

I pray that you might just share your story here and allow God to minister to you though others who love the Lord and have a compassionate heart. I realize through my own experience that I needed the members of the Body of Christ to help me in this journey.
My motto has become: STAND NO MORE ALONE.

Discussion Forum

Living in fear and trying to do God's will

Started by Jay David Sims. Last reply by Jay David Sims Jul 10, 2013. 2 Replies

I am recently separated as well. I was a heavy drinker. In may, I put myself into a treatment center. I had reached a level of deep shame. I was verbally abusive and a very angry drunk. I often was…Continue

I'd be drowning by now if it wasn't for God picking me up and carrying me.

Started by James Saldana. Last reply by Ruel Z Chavez May 7, 2011. 4 Replies

My wife said she wants a divorce. I know that i have failed to show her how much she has meant to me after 17 years of marriage a lot of the times. i know that i have not been the husband to her and…Continue

God Will... Bring you Thru.

Started by Gayla Mar 6, 2011. 0 Replies

As someone who has gone thru many struggles in life, oftentimes longing for the end of a certain situation that I was experiencing at the moment, I can say of a surety that "God... will bring you…Continue

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Going through Divorced :-(

Started by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz. Last reply by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz Feb 9, 2011. 4 Replies

My husband of 18 1/2 years walked out on me and my girls. It has been very painful to me as his wife but also as the mother of our children because I get to see the pain and rebellion they are going…Continue

Now what?

Started by Stephen Sadousky. Last reply by Soldier Feb 9, 2011. 1 Reply

I'll put this out there to see what is what.Not really sure what happens now,but ,I guess that sometimes things have to end so new beginnings can start.I find myself facing divorce,and have been…Continue

Been about 4 months since my wife filed for separation/divorce

Started by Leo. Last reply by Leo Oct 20, 2010. 3 Replies

We have had our rough times and had some good times. We have three of the biggest blessings God can betstow on us, three beautiful boys. We got married young but decided we'd tackle life together and…Continue

Need your prayers. I'm just so angry.

Started by Leo. Last reply by Soldier Oct 4, 2010. 4 Replies

Yesterday, I had to take my boys back to their moms and I won't get to see them for like 5 or 6 months. I am not an angry person but this has just done it to me. I am so angry at my wife for doing…Continue

Help when you experience loss

Started by Gayla. Last reply by marcoe corpuz Sep 28, 2010. 4 Replies

Loss can touch our lives at any time, and sometimes it can be devastating. We can be assured that God is right there with us, in whatever pain we are currently experiencing, helping us to cope with…Continue

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Newly Divorced

Started by Teresa. Last reply by Soldier Aug 23, 2010. 2 Replies

I'm newly divorced and it sucks.   My husband wanted the divorce, said he wasnt happy, that I was mean to him and had a bad attitude.  There were some other issues as well.  We moved to Hawaii last…Continue

Dealing with loss and grief

Started by Pastor Bob B. Last reply by Pastor Bob B May 6, 2010. 16 Replies

To One in SorrowLet me come in where you are weeping, friend,And let me take your hand.I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in…Continue

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Comment by Soldier on April 25, 2011 at 11:08am

Mr Langford, I just ready your comment. My heart is so saddened for you.  I lost my Dad to colon cancer in 2000. Although it was not a spouse, I can feel the emptiness your heart has with your precious wife Dorothy being called Home. I will be praying for you as I pray for forgiveness for myself for the anger that rose in my heart for your daughter as I read your comment. Always remember, YOU are a Precious, Loved, Child of a King, the only King.

      "For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor pricipalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other craeture, shal be able to seperate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord".  Found in the Book of Romans Chapter 8. 

Mr Langford, you sleep tonight knowing that Our Mighty God knows EXACTLY how important you are!

Comment by Paul on April 24, 2011 at 6:59am
Hello All, would just like to say thank you for all your prayers and encouragement before i sign out from this group and move on with my life and my beautiful future wife that God has allowed me to have from my past disasterous painful, emotional, and so hurtful and hateful marrage of the past, I thought the pain was never going to end and realized hell has no fury as a woman's scorn, I tryed everything to save our marrage, but the devil had he's day, but in time God and I had the last laugh..hallalouya..dont give up time will take you to your next level, just hang on in their, by folkes love you all, and just remember this the best is yet to come.Amen :-)x
Comment by MARTIN PELFREY on April 22, 2011 at 5:15pm
norman i am sorry that you lost your wife to cancer. there are no words i can say to help with that. she is with God and you will join her one day. I cant imagine how hard it must be after 43 years. i have been married only 20 and we are now separated and i can't stand separation after only 20 years. and as far as your daughter and son in law goes, please try to forgive them . God will deal with them. I don't know whether to tell you to avoid, ignore or cover them with love. I have no good advice but I will pray for you and your situation.
Comment by norman langford on April 22, 2011 at 1:45pm

 You know God has walked with me thiis last year aftter loosing Dorothy to cancer after 43 yrs. I know He cares but I miss her more everyday and all I get from my daughter no matter what I do are say iis to be told how stupid and worthless I am

I am trusting  in the Lord but it hurts and without Dorothy it hurts more to know how my daughter and son in law feel about me.

Comment by Paul on April 22, 2011 at 2:18am
Hello all... as I read all the wonderful things God is doing to heal your hearts it reminds me of the terrible hurts we go through and how we cling on to our Father even when we think he's not their............their are no quick fixes in these stressfull, emotional, hurtful and even hateful times, but rest assured that God and our Lord Jesus Christ is with you all the way, and like me there is a light at the end of the tunnel. it will take time to get to it, but just stay on the train, namely Jesus Christ, and like me your Joy will be compleat, as the best is yet to come and it will come Hallalouya, thankyou Jesus for my new life and what i thought would never be my new future wife..Hallalouya!!..praise got for allowing such a thing to happen to ME!!
Comment by April April on April 21, 2011 at 5:38pm

Wonderful words of inspiration Solider. I needed to hear that and I thank you so much for sharing. You are so right, keeping your focus of God will never take you in the wrong direction. Even when things looks bad and are bad God can turn them into good. Again thank you for your words of inspiration and encouragement. 


Comment by Leo on April 21, 2011 at 8:50am
Praying for you all. Hadn't been on here in a while. Divorce has been final for some time now and she is seeing another man and I hear wedding bells off in the distance. Last night she threatened to limit my visitation to the minimum because of some things I discussed with my boys teachers and their acting out at school. I am sadden to hear that but I still have joy. What soldier posted is right, put God first and trust in Him. Who better to fight the battle than the King of Kings. If you are working on your marriage then remember it is a choice to love and to forgive. Some of you may have the right to be angry but when you give that right over to God you let Him work in ways never before.
Comment by Soldier on April 21, 2011 at 8:31am
Yall two hang in there! Remember, when the flesh tries to fix things, it gets screwed up even worse. Dont try to fix things all by yourself. God is a Powerfull God. Powerful enough to level mountains yet gently enough to create the breeze that butterflies drift on. Dont squelch out His Holy Spirit. Keep your individual focus on Him. He will work on your spouses. Im not going in to detail. Im the one who filed divorce against my wife. Details not needed. She is due to deliver the other mans child in July. I think this says enough. However, this process taught me that God is ALWAYS in control! Our flesh is simply to weak to understand that and we try to fix ourselves and all that accomplishes is us strangling out the Holy Spirit not allowing Him to do His work.  I began to place my focus on Him. As I found a different group in this site, Im learning that pain that He saw me through was His means of preparing me for the blessing that I now have. Im at peace. Yall concentrate on your individual relationship with our Mighty God. Trust me, He'll take care of the rest.
Comment by MARTIN PELFREY on April 19, 2011 at 9:58pm
please everyone out there please hear me and help. I think it started today. everything in my wife's life starting getting her down. she must have texted me one hundred times. bought and brought supper to me. nothing concrete came of any of this. I told her that i loved her and just wanted to be there for her in everything. Please keep praying this is the turning point. thanks
Comment by April April on April 18, 2011 at 2:26pm
That is great news Martin. Small steps are better than no steps at all. My husband and I too are taking small steps. It's difficult but God takes us through things for a reason and I am praying that in my marriage and in yours that this chapter will make our marriages that much more stronger. I do believe that God is working in favor of our marriages. I will keep praying for you and your wife!!!!

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