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so since coming back to Christ I can't stand when people use foul language I'm constantly angry and frustrated and irritated I'm on equally yoked widget I feel is pushing my wife away from me from God I just don't know what to do anymore I'm constantly seeking guidance from other Christians my pastor my parents and I'm constantly praying but it feels like I keep getting no answers I like this site because I'm able to vent and then get good quality answers from fellow Christians I try to be patient but its so hardI'm scared now because the wife and I are talking about separation but I know that I can't do this alone and I need her but I'm also angry because she completely denies God and doesn't want to believe and I know that I can't force her into believing and I keep getting scriptures about you know how the wife is sanctified through her husband and not to divorce because God hates divorce and there so many other ones that I can't even recall right now but sometimes I just don't know what to do thank you for listening

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Brother Matthew:

These are some things I would share with my daughter. Maybe she's about your age. I don't know. My hope is that you can work on bringing your focus back to where it should be, back to God.

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. (Matthew 6:33 NLT)

Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? (Matthew 6:31 KJV)

Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: (Matthew 6:19)

For where your heart is, there will your heart be also. (Matthew 6:21 KJV)

Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established. (Proverbs 16:3)

If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. (Colossians 3:1)

My son, forget not my law; but let thine heart keep my commandments: (Proverbs 3:1)

It has never been about us or your wife. It's about God. It's about Jesus Christ. I've been seeing this more and more. Matthew, it's about God. We serve God and put Him first.

Love,

Mary

One other thought, Matthew. It's 50/50 whether your wife will leave or stay with you. Consider this...God's a sure thing. He never leaves you or forsakes you. God is going to love you forever. Who should you seek first? What should you treasure in your heart?

Love,

Mary

All's i want is for my wife to see the LORD and know how great god is. My mom keeps saying that im mad and angry because i cant share my feelings of faith and god with her. That makes sense to me and everyone else i talk to says love her and live your life for jesus and she'll see the change and maybe want that for herself. I dont want anyone to die lost especially not her. Thats why i find this all so hard i guess

I know.  She's a human being. People are going to disappoint you sometimes. Maybe we aren't going to live up to each other's expectations. I'm sorry about that.  Did you know the Bible says that the person who believes will not be disgraced or ashamed. It's in Romans 10:11. Another translation I heard of is that we won't be disappointed. Your attention is so strong on your wife that it appears or seems like you may have taken it away from where it should be. God has feelings too you know. Food for thought.

Love,

Mary 

Stay close to God's word in scripture. He will turn all that is bad to good. Your deep love for your wife as you lead by example of Jesus will help greatly. I am moved by your love and feel your frustration brother. Be calm and know that God is at work in you and your life. Praying for you both. God's love is perfect love.

Psalm 46:10 NIV

He says,"Be still and know that I am God; I will be exalted among all nations, I will be exalted in the earth."

The best thing you can do for your unsaved loved ones is pray for them. We all have unsaved loved ones we have been praying for, and I don't mean to minimize your experience by saying that but I understand that you are bearing one of the heaviest burdens we who belong to Christ bear and it really weighs heavily upon all our hearts. So people are being very empathetic with you and your situation and identify with it. When you pray for your wife, ask God to have mercy upon her and to bring her to repentance, even though, at this moment, she isn't even seeking Him. Don't give up. As long as there is breath in her body, there is hope.

Matthew, God gives the increase. That's God's job. We plant and water. As Amanda said, the best thing you can do is to pray and ask for God's mercy for your wife and to bring her to repentance. There is still hope. Our job is to pray, be patient, study and learn the Bible, and walk in wisdom. You can also trust what God has said. He gives the increase, and He loves you very much.

So then neither is he that planteth any thing, neither he that watereth; but God that giveth the increase. (1 Corinthians 3:7 KJV)

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. (Galatians 5:22-23 ESV)

Blessed is the man who finds wisdom, the man who gains understanding, (Proverbs 3:13 NIV)

Love,

Mary

Hi Brother Matthew, God bless you! I can't tell you what to do. But I'm suggesting that you ease up pressuring your wife to accept Jesus Christ. I assure you God's working on it.

Just posing a question, why pressure your wife to the point that it leaves a sour taste in her mouth? So that she hates or mistrusts all Christians? Maybe two months, one/two years later God has worked in her heart and the Word has worked in her heart and the miracle of all miracles could happen and she could believe. God can send different Christians to talk to her and win her to Himself. Why push your wife so hard so that she completely shuts down and gets all negative? Trust God to make it happen. Let God do His job. One Christian waters, another plants, but it is God who gives the increase.

Love,

Mary

Well said, Mary.

Writer Marilyn Ferguson has said: "No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or emotional appeal.

Marilyn Ferguson


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It really is in God's hands. I believe no one is able to convince another to receive Christ, either. It's a work that God must perform within a person. Romans 10:17 says, So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ. ESV

We sow the word, another waters. God gives the increase.

Hi Amanda, God bless you!

He causeth the grass to grow for the cattle, and herb for the service of man: that he may bring forth food out of the earth; (Psalm 104:14)

We plant and water, but it is God who causes the plants to grow. He gives the Sonlight.  :-) 

Without God, I don't know if plants would grow on the earth. It's something we all take for granted. Psalms is very clear.

You always have these great references. Thank you!

Love you!

Mary

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