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Separated, Divorced, or loss of a spouse support net.

Those Christians who are facing separation, divorce, or loss of a spouse need love and care from their brothers and sister in Christ during this time of crisis in there lives. If one part of the body is hurt we all are hurt.

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I wanted to put a comment here that I left for a young man who had just separated and was in real anguish. When I looked at his picture on his page and looked into his eyes, I saw the same pain there that I saw in my own eyes when I faced separation after 25 years of marriage. I hope to make this group a real source of support for those who are in this position that most of us never dreamed of being in, and then found our selves there anyway.
This is the post.
I do know the place where you are at right now, because I have been there. Without going through all the details of my experience I want you to know that because you have come to this net. You are not alone in your suffering anymore. I know how hard it is to allow others to help you when you have been so wounded. You do not need me or any one to fix this problem right now, all you need to know is that someone cares about you. I remember the day my Pastor came to my house, just set with me half a day, and cried with me. I kept listening to this song by Keri Jobe that helped me make it through my pain.

It didn’t turn out the way I thought it would after almost 4 years now.
Am I back in my marriage? No. The divorce will be final this week.

Is there life after separation, divorce or the loss of a spouse? Yes!
But you can’t deal with it alone. You need some one to help you find a way through the maze of grief, and sorrow that some one goes through with any loss. Stand no more alone and find some support for yourself that you need so desperately.

Know that I will, and others here will pray that God will lead you to those who will help. God can handle your anger and disappointment and your grief. He is a very present help in time of need.


Maybe you are reading this and your heart is broken, you are feeling lost, and have lost your hope.

I pray that you might just share your story here and allow God to minister to you though others who love the Lord and have a compassionate heart. I realize through my own experience that I needed the members of the Body of Christ to help me in this journey.
My motto has become: STAND NO MORE ALONE.

Discussion Forum

Living in fear and trying to do God's will

Started by Jay David Sims. Last reply by Jay David Sims Jul 10, 2013. 2 Replies

I am recently separated as well. I was a heavy drinker. In may, I put myself into a treatment center. I had reached a level of deep shame. I was verbally abusive and a very angry drunk. I often was…Continue

I'd be drowning by now if it wasn't for God picking me up and carrying me.

Started by James Saldana. Last reply by Ruel Z Chavez May 7, 2011. 4 Replies

My wife said she wants a divorce. I know that i have failed to show her how much she has meant to me after 17 years of marriage a lot of the times. i know that i have not been the husband to her and…Continue

God Will... Bring you Thru.

Started by Gayla Mar 6, 2011. 0 Replies

As someone who has gone thru many struggles in life, oftentimes longing for the end of a certain situation that I was experiencing at the moment, I can say of a surety that "God... will bring you…Continue

Tags: Gayla, Stahl, thru, you, will

Going through Divorced :-(

Started by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz. Last reply by Vicky Emperatriz Diaz Feb 9, 2011. 4 Replies

My husband of 18 1/2 years walked out on me and my girls. It has been very painful to me as his wife but also as the mother of our children because I get to see the pain and rebellion they are going…Continue

Now what?

Started by Stephen Sadousky. Last reply by Soldier Feb 9, 2011. 1 Reply

I'll put this out there to see what is what.Not really sure what happens now,but ,I guess that sometimes things have to end so new beginnings can start.I find myself facing divorce,and have been…Continue

Been about 4 months since my wife filed for separation/divorce

Started by Leo. Last reply by Leo Oct 20, 2010. 3 Replies

We have had our rough times and had some good times. We have three of the biggest blessings God can betstow on us, three beautiful boys. We got married young but decided we'd tackle life together and…Continue

Need your prayers. I'm just so angry.

Started by Leo. Last reply by Soldier Oct 4, 2010. 4 Replies

Yesterday, I had to take my boys back to their moms and I won't get to see them for like 5 or 6 months. I am not an angry person but this has just done it to me. I am so angry at my wife for doing…Continue

Help when you experience loss

Started by Gayla. Last reply by marcoe corpuz Sep 28, 2010. 4 Replies

Loss can touch our lives at any time, and sometimes it can be devastating. We can be assured that God is right there with us, in whatever pain we are currently experiencing, helping us to cope with…Continue

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Newly Divorced

Started by Teresa. Last reply by Soldier Aug 23, 2010. 2 Replies

I'm newly divorced and it sucks.   My husband wanted the divorce, said he wasnt happy, that I was mean to him and had a bad attitude.  There were some other issues as well.  We moved to Hawaii last…Continue

Dealing with loss and grief

Started by Pastor Bob B. Last reply by Pastor Bob B May 6, 2010. 16 Replies

To One in SorrowLet me come in where you are weeping, friend,And let me take your hand.I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in…Continue

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Comment by Tammy on February 6, 2019 at 8:45pm

I wish I had encouraging words to help you Simon. I can just keep praying that the Lord shows her your heart.

Comment by Simon on February 6, 2019 at 4:48pm

well its not looking good, my wife cant get over it .after 13 years and a good life together she keeps dwelling on the past and cant see that God has changed me, she wants to take my 8 year old daughter away from me, Please Pray that God keeps my family together,,only God can do it now,,

Comment by Simon on January 24, 2019 at 2:32pm

Thank You Tammy

Comment by Simon on January 24, 2019 at 2:31pm

Prayer Warriors needed, I am in despair, I feel like I am losing my family , I Love my wife she is my soul mate,and my 7 year old daughter is truly a gift from God, I am losing them slowly do to my sinful past, PLEASE pray for me and my family to get back together and heal, sometimes I feel like if I died they would be better off, at least in my daughters eyes I will still be her hero, I am at the end of my rope

Comment by Tammy on January 23, 2019 at 6:07am

Simon, you'll be in my prayers. 

Comment by Simon on November 29, 2018 at 12:04pm

prayers needed, I know that in the eyes of God all sin is equal but in the eyes of men there are levels, 13 years ago  I committed a heinous sin and my wife has a hard time forgiving me and certain content puts a strain on our marriage,  please pray that she can get the devil out of her way and forgive me and keep our marriage together, I love her and our 7 year old daughter, they are both a gift from God, . when I committed that sin I wan not a Christian but 10 years ago I was saved,. Pleas pray for us. Thank you and God Bless you and your Family

Comment by Lynnette Smith on July 13, 2013 at 7:04am

I'm new and wanted to introduce myself.  My name is Lynn and about a month ago, my husband came to me after the kids were in bed and said he was "done" and wanted to move to his mom's house and wanted me to allow him to take our 2 boys with him because our house was "unsafe" and "unhealthy."  We've been married 12 years and he's never liked the house...so much that he's refused to fix anything in the house for the last 6 years while he was "working" on a design to build a new one.  The floors have buckled in many places because there's moisture in the house and I'm sure there is mold in the walls.  The roof leaks in a few places and he began to remodel both bathrooms but never got very far, so there's one bathroom with only a tub and the other with only a toilet and sink.  When he said he wanted to go to his mom's, I worried he was going to use the house to try to take the kids from me, so that night I called one of the men from my Church and moved (with our kids) into a vacant house owned by the Church the next day.  My husband didn't expect me to do that, but I felt like I didn't have a choice.  I told him I didn't believe in divorce and didn't believe this was the right thing to do (he's upset about our finances...that's it...there's no "other woman" or man).  I told him he would have to file the papers.  So far, he's changed his mind to legal separation, but has yet to file any papers.  He has sent me a list of what he wants in a separation (because he doesn't want lawyers involved, but I'm not promising that)...he wants all of the vehicles, except the one I currently drive, almost all of the firearms we own together, he took a safe full of coins, and he wants full legal custody of the kids (he says because I travel sometimes for work).  He also wants us to equally share parenting time.  He was upset when I answered his "proposal" with a 10 page detailed response that basically said I agreed with most of his proposal (except the full legal custody of the kids) for now, but if he files legal action, I reserve the right to amend the agreement.  I feel so hurt, I don't even know how to describe it.  I feel alone, angry at times, and defiled.  To top it off, this is the second time he's left over what I would call a "trivial" problem and I'm having a very hard time trusting him right now.  I love him very much, but trusting him right now is almost out of the question.  I don't know what he wants to do because he hasn't really talked to me about anything significant in about 3 weeks.  Right now, I'm just waiting and understanding what I really need from him, but I'm afraid he either can't or is unwilling to give it.  I'm willing to give him whatever he needs to make this work, but I understand this has to be two sided.  He's not a Christian, so his view of this is quite different from mine.  Divorce is something reserved for non-Christians and those who practice "sexual immorality"...neither of which is me or our relationship.  I pray for him mostly because I know he's confused and hurting.  I don't know how to help him and right now am just trying to be loving and kind, like I know God wants me to treat everyone.  I pray that he figures out we're not fixing the problem, but creating more problems by being apart.  Today is the last day of our 4-H fair, something we both are very involved in, and I'll need to interact with him today.  I pray God gives me the strength I need to get through the day.  After the fair is over, he's taking the kids for a week and I'll be alone in the house...something I fear.  My life seems to be falling apart and I have no control over it.  I'm just trying my best to follow God's will.

Comment by Ruel Z Chavez on December 21, 2012 at 7:08pm

Try this book

Comment by Ruel Z Chavez on December 21, 2012 at 2:28am

The book that helps me deal with my own situation is "Second Chance" by Ray Sutton. A pdf copy of it is available in the web. It's worth reading and I personally think the best advice I received...Grace and peace!

Comment by Corey L. Freeman Sr. on November 12, 2012 at 9:14pm

Hello my fellow brother and sister's.  Not sure where to start?  Been married for 9 1/2 years and as of tonight my wife and I are seperating.  We have had a problems well before we even got married 100% me and my poor wife has loved me and forgiven me time after time and I've treated her like crap.  Part of the problem was that I wasn't saved so May 2011 I became saved and figured that would solve all of my problems.  Not understanding that I needed to commit to the lord, not just "sign up".  I feel like this seperation which may become a divorce down the road is my calling.  Jesus is calling me to stand as a man in christ, give 100% to my faith and everything else will line up as he has fit.  I am 1000% commited to the lord, I now get it.  I will pray for my marriage but the most important prayer I will be saying is the one for me.  "Lord make me a better person, friend, father, brother, son, grandson."  I am ready for this new chapter in my walk with the lord.  So please do pray for me and my marriage.

 

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